Our God is awesome!
We serve an incredibly large God. So large, the heavens can’t even hold Him. In Psalm 139:8 it teaches that there is no place to escape from the presence of God as He is unlimited by space.
If I ascend to heaven, You are there;
If I make my bed in Sheol, behold, You are there.
That definitely qualifies as awesome! A few other “awesome” verses:
. . . the Lord your God is . . . a great and awesome God. —Deuteronomy 7:21
. . . How awesome are thy works! —Psalm 66:3
. . . awesome in His deeds . . . —Psalm 66:5
. . . majestic in holiness, awesome in praises . . . —Exodus 15:11
. . . awesome majesty. —Job 37:22
My husband is a truck driver and has never been able to take the “head” role for he is rarely home and is only there on weekends. He has done this all his life—it’s all he knows how to do. He is dyslexic and feels comfortable as a truck driver. But he hates being away from me. We raised four children that now have families of their own.
I pray constantly that he would become the strong spiritual leader I need, but he doesn’t seem to be able to do that. I have to be the strong one in order to prevent his out-of-control behavior from making rash decisions.
I have heard this teaching about men needing to lead homes, but we have had counseling and learned that we are basically in a dysfunctional home. So, in a situation like ours, if the husband is the weak one and the wife is the strong one, is that OK?
No, God didn’t say men were to lead in their homes “except” in those that are “dysfunctional”—which is a secular term. Many families described in the Bible would fall into this category :-). Your husband can, and should, be the head of your family, regardless of what kind of leader he is:
By having the attitude that your husband can’t lead you like you think you should be led, you are saying you are disappointed in your husband. But God knew you would marry him before the earth was created. All things, including challenges in marriages, work together for good
And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. —Romans 8:28
Allowing him to lead doesn’t mean you can’t do certain functions in his absence. In fact, leadership requires delegation (e.g., 2 Chronicles 28:1-21). When he is away, he has delegated to you certain family responsibilities.
For whatever reason, your husband has chosen truck driving as a vocation, and it is honorable work. You, under your husband’s authority and direction, need to lead your family in his absence, but go to great lengths to allow him to lead when he is home.
You need to pray for strength to work hard to establish your husband as your leader both when he is home and away.
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives —1 Peter 3:1
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life. —Proverbs 31:11-12
pray without ceasing —1 Thessalonians 5:17
That will allow God to work in your life as well as your husband’s. And keep praying—God does not always work in our time schedule, and He’s STILL working on your husband.
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