You can’t “save the earth.”
You can recycle tin cans for as long as you live but the earth WILL be destroyed one day. And all the political correctness can’t save it from its future fate.
Now before we get an avalanche of email, we DO believe in being good stewards of that which God has given us. And that includes our planet. But there is a world of difference between having an attitude to recycle in order to “save the planet” and an attitude to recycle to be a good steward of what God has entrusted to you. So, don’t miss our point: This earth is here only for a time.
And I saw a new heaven and a new earth; for the first heaven and the first earth passed away . . . —Revelation 21:1
I am feeling just terrible. My 15-year-old daughter was statutory raped (she consented) by her boyfriend, age 22. Our whole family trusted him as he had many nice qualities. To make things worse, he laughed at my husband and me when we got upset with him. Amid the uproar, he dumped her and got a new girlfriend. His mom made statements that he could do much better and she told people this.
I have a female friend (non-Christian) who is literally laughing at me for being angry and tells me this happens all the time, and then names all the people she had sex with and then dumped. I’m getting the impression from several non-Christians that they thought Christians were supposed to be loving and not get mad. But I feel so violated in so many ways! I just don’t feel like being all that nice and forgiving or turning the other cheek, the anger and betrayal are so terrible.
We got into this whole mess in the first place by being innocent and trusting. How can I do the right thing? My daughter feels that to press charges would make things worse. She is already feeling like she brought something terrible on the whole family. In the meantime, my friend refuses to apologize, saying she hasn’t said anything she needs to apologize for.
I met with my pastor, and he said to stay away from the friend and be glad to be rid of the terrible boyfriend. The boy will probably marry the new girlfriend and make us feel worse . . . and stupider. I read the Bible and pray a lot. I need advice on how to conduct myself and handle my grief and shame better.
We know your situation is difficult, but God is not limited in any way and He can certainly help you through this. You need to first ask Him to help you sort out your own responses. There is certainly a place for righteous anger in this situation, but much of what you’re saying sounds more like wounded pride. And the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.
for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God. —James 1:20
Your concern about the boyfriend, his new girlfriend, his laughter, his possible marriage, etc., comes from a kind of “how dare him!” response. Although that is understandable, it is straight from Satan, and you need to repent of that and ask God to take away your prideful hurt. Once you have dealt with that, you will have freedom to help your daughter and give her the love, forgiveness, and spiritual support she desperately needs. That is your primary God-given responsibility at this point. You have the opportunity to give her spiritual strength and guidance now that will help her to build a solid, Christ-centered foundation for the rest of her life.
You also need to make a pointed effort to get your eyes off the boyfriend. He has gotten away with nothing. God will deal with him in His own timing. Your job is to look to Jesus Christ, thank Him for bearing the weight and the long-term penalty of this situation, and then prayerfully and faithfully follow Him as He leads you and your family beyond this. When you do that, then the boy, your unsaved friends, and your daughter will all have an opportunity to see how great our God is who can bring beauty out of these ashes. And for you, your renewed dependence on your Father will give you a supernatural peace to live above this, or any future, situation God allows in your life.
And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. —Romans 8:28
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