Give credit where credit is due.
The only reason you can do anything is because God allows it. He gave you eyes, ears, and a brain. He allows many to marry, have jobs and families. He allows success and failure both to help you grow and mature. It’s an endless list. And by acknowledging those facts in every situation, you give God the glory and honor, showing you truly understand what God has done for you.
Oh give thanks to the LORD . . .
Make known His deeds among the peoples. —1 Chronicles 16:8
I will give thanks to the LORD with all my heart;
I will tell of all thy wonders. — Psalm 9:1
O give thanks to the LORD, for He is good;
For His lovingkindness is everlasting. — 1 Chronicles 16:34
I have a long-time friend who has never been married and just turned 40. She has spent most of the twenty years I have known her seeking a long-term marriage relationship to no avail.
I have just received word from her that she is planning a family without a husband. She intends to become artificially inseminated in an attempt to become pregnant.
I am very burdened by this and need scriptural references to share with her. I am still not sure, even after all these years, if she has truly given her heart to Jesus.
I started to respond to her last communication in anger, but the Lord impressed upon me to hold my tongue. I understand that she is lonely, but I don’t feel it’s God’s will in her life to become impregnated without a husband. I need direction in this area on how to share this with her.
Artificial insemination using a husband’s sperm and a wife’s egg to overcome medical problems is one thing, but in this situation, it is clearly outside of God’s boundaries. Your friend is very, very self-centered, which is Biblically translated “sin centered.”
Whether or not she is a non-Christian, or a backsliding Christian, she has a MAJOR spiritual problem—refusing God’s will in her life—which is rebellion. Rather than accepting God’s providence in her life (Christ-centered, seeking after righteousness), she is taking matters into her own hands (self-centered, following her own sin nature). And there are consequences to sin.
When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away . . . —Psalm 32:3
. . . there is no health in my bones because of my sin . . . —Psalm 38:3
For rebellion is as the sin of divination [witchcraft] . . .
Because you have rejected the word of the LORD. —1 Samuel 15:23
Given the opportunity, you should witness to her about God’s love and the value of making Him Lord and Savior of her life. For His own purposes, God has allowed EVERYTHING in her life. Nothing happened by chance.
Until she surrenders one hundred percent of her life to Jesus, and accepts every circumstance she finds herself in as allowed by God and can be used by God for good (“God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God” —Romans 8:28), she’s going to be continually disappointed. She needs to be taught that only God can give her the true happiness she is seeking. And always remember to pray for her spiritual protection, as well as your own. As we’ve said before, it’s not the sinner, it’s the sin (nature) that you are dealing with. ______________________________ ______________________________
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. —Ephesians 6:12
And always remember to pray for her spiritual protection, as well as your own. As we’ve said before, it’s not the sinner, it’s the sin (nature) that you are dealing with.
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