How big is your God?
Whatever problem you are currently dealing with, why not handle it God’s way? Do you have a problem with your spouse . . . a problem at work . . . your finances? Regardless of the problem, you are going to deal with it one of two ways—the short term (the world’s way) or the long term (God’s way). And there is only one RIGHT way.
There is a way which seems right to a man,
But its end is the way of death. — Proverbs 16:25
And God can certainly handle anything, you just need to ask!
. . . ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding. —Colossians 1:9
My husband and I and our two sons (15 & 11) are Christians. My husband works swing-shift, and I have always worked full time. Lately, our 11-year-old is asking me to work less hours and spend more time with him, which is something I have felt a desire to do as well. My employer is a Christian, and I have asked him to let me work 8-4 instead of 8-5 each day. This would get me home shortly after my youngest is home from school. My employer told me no, because the other people in the office may want to do the same thing. I have mentioned finding a different, part-time job, but my husband is totally against it because I make good money now.
Is it wrong to go against my husband’s wishes, if I feel it is what God is leading me to do? Am I ignoring God by letting my employer and my husband convince me that this is just a “phase” our son is going through? My employer has also told me we should not let our children dictate our lives. I am very hurt and confused by all of this. What is your opinion?
If men ever figured out the eternal AND TEMPORAL benefits of a wife staying home (not to mention the problems avoided), they would never think of allowing their wives to work full time outside the home for another employer. Unfortunately, your husband hasn’t figured this out, and, apparently, neither has your employer.
We believe your employer would receive far greater rewards (both in this world and the next) if he would allow you to work a little less and put a little more time into your family as your family is far more important than the product or service your employer is selling.
It sounds like your husband is making decisions based on money, not God. We don’t know why you have “always worked full time,” but if it was simply for more money, on Judgment Day, your husband will probably regret the fact he traded in the priceless gift God had given him for mere money.
Many people say, “We can’t make it on one income.” But what they are really saying is that they are NOT willing to live on the one income God provided and ARE willing to accept all the problems associated with the wife working outside the home.
Encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children . . . be workers at home . . . subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God may not be dishonored. —Titus 2:4
However, he is your husband, it IS his decision, therefore, in this case, once you have expressed your concerns to him, prayer and obedience is the best course. Pray for God to change his heart regarding the importance of family and your priorities.
Also, you should lovingly respond to your son’s request by reassuring him that he is your priority and that you are seeking God’s will about any schedule changes that might be best. Without disparaging your husband in any way, a careful response to your son can also be a valuable lesson in showing him that you honor your husband as head of your home.
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