And where there is no whisper, contention quiets down.
God does not like gossip.
He who covers a transgression seeks love,
But he who repeats a matter separates intimate friends. —Proverbs 17:9
He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets,
Therefore do not associate with a gossip. —Proverbs 20:19
Since God is love, we seek God’s best when we diffuse a situation rather than adding fuel to the fire through gossip.
And always remember, gossip was listed right there with murder as something worthy of death!!!!
And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper, being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; they are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, without understanding, untrustworthy, unloving, unmerciful; and, although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them. —Romans 1:28-32
Wow, I am a new subscriber and this is hard-core stuff! I just read a GML that made my jaw drop. I think it’s pretty horrible to tell someone they ought to stay in a marriage when they’ve been cheated on repeatedly—not to mention your answer is completely un-biblical! Matthew 19:9 says, “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
I really think it’s unwise, unfair and un-biblical to tell people to stay in a marriage when they’ve been the victim of adultery, not to mention the emotional, spiritual and psychological damage it causes.
I think you should offer the woman and her family—and everyone else who reads this daily email—some alternative advice that’s less destructive. Sorry, guys, but this column broke my heart. It’d be awesome if you could consider my comments when writing future devotionals, and even more awesome would be if you could republish today’s to reflect a more balanced perspective. I am writing this out of love.
Now a Jew named Apollos, an Alexandrian by birth, an eloquent man, came to Ephesus; and he was mighty in the Scriptures. This man had been instructed in the way of the Lord; and being fervent in spirit, he was speaking and teaching accurately the things concerning Jesus, being acquainted only with the baptism of John; and he began to speak out boldly in the synagogue. But when Priscilla and Aquila heard him, they took him aside and explained to him the way of God more accurately. —Acts 18:24-26
Jesus said to them, “Is this not the reason you are mistaken, that you do not understand the Scriptures or the power of God?” —Mark 12:24
In the spirit of the above two verses, we think you are also well-meaning, but wrong, not understanding the scriptures. You have misapplied Matthew 19:9, a verse that was written to the Jews living under the law. Today, we are not living under the law. We are living in the Church Age, a specific time period, or dispensation, that began in Acts 2.
Our “Church Age” instructions regarding divorce and remarriage are laid out in the Epistles. These inspired letters by Paul quite plainly state that we are to love our spouses “as Christ loves the Church.” Christ would never divorce the church. Therefore you should never divorce your spouse, for any reason. You can do all things through Christ, and you are to forgive as you have been forgiven.
When the “divorce exception” (Matthew 19:9) was given by Jesus, it was given to the Jews who did NOT have the Holy Spirit living within them. They did not have the capacity for love and forgiveness that we have through the Holy Spirit living in us. They were living pre-cross . . . in a different time period or dispensation. We are living post-cross, with the power of the living God inside us.
Therefore, with divorce not an option, we are to remain in our marriage, regardless of the situation. God is in control, has allowed all things in our lives. We, by faith in God’s Word, are to trust that He knows what He is doing.
For someone to bail on their marriage is to say they don’t like the way God is allowing things to transpire in their life . . . and that they would rather do it their way . . . which is of course self-centered instead of God-centered.
For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? —1 Corinthians 7:16
We are not to make this life a priority over the next. Rather, we are to trust God and know our rewards are in heaven, not in this life. That’s why in a marriage ceremony they say, “For better or worse!” Some get “better,” some get “worse.”
Compass has a quite humorous four DVD set titled Marriage on the Rock. If you watch all four DVDs with your spouse or fiance, you will be blessed!! Great to watch and donate to your church library!
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- How to Love Your Spouse, Regardless! by Greg Knapp
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- Why Women are Weird and Men are a Mess! by Dave Moore
- Back to the Garden by Susie Perkins
- Love Is Not A Feeling! by Josh McDowell
- Raising Godly Children In An Ungodly World! by Ken Ham
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