You can’t argue someone into a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ.
Often we find ourselves literally arguing a biblical point with non-Christians. But does this really help the cause of Christ?
. . . refuse foolish and ignorant speculations, knowing that they produce quarrels. —2 Timothy 2:23
. . . Where is the debater of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? —1 Corinthians 1:20
. . . natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God; for they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them. —1 Corinthians 2:14
The only reason Christians understand things of God is because God the Holy Spirit reveals them to us. Rather than argue biblical points with a nonbeliever, wait for God to bring into your life a convicted heart who desires to know the truth. Only then will you be able to share the truth you know. Only then will they be able to understand God’s truth.
. . . we have received . . . the Spirit who is from God, so that we might know the things freely given to us by God. —1 Corinthians 2:12
Only then will they be able to understand God’s truth.
Does the Bible say anything is wrong with getting a co-signer for a car or house?
Although the Bible warns it is not good to borrow (Proverbs 22:7), it is not sinful because God said it was good to be lenders:
. . . God will bless you . . . and you will lend to many nations, but you will not borrow; —Deuteronomy 15:6
The problem is that with borrowing, if a problem arises, the lender always has the upper hand:
. . . the borrower becomes the lender’s slave —Proverbs 22:7
We don’t know the reason for your situation or whether or not it involves past credit problems. But more to the point, if you can’t get a non-depreciating asset loan (example: home) or a depreciating asset loan (example: car), there must be a reason. Who, then, in their right mind, would throw caution to the wind and become a co-signer in light of these verses?
He who is guarantor for a stranger will surely suffer. —Proverbs 11:15
A man lacking in sense pledges. —Proverbs 17:18
Do not be among those who give pledges . . . —Proverbs 22:26
(See also Proverbs 20:16, 27:13, 6:1-5.)
Many a family has been strained because of loan guarantees. Since we don’t know what the future holds, why put friendship or family at risk?
. . . you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. —James 4:14
(See also Luke 12:16-20.)
To the person concerned about having divorced her husband:
Quit beating yourself up! Good grief. Satan is the accuser, and he is doing a number on you! Get your eyes back on the Lord, His Word, and His righteousness.
. . . Resist the devil and he will flee from you. —James 4:7b
You need to look up this verse and camp out on it. Write it out on a piece of paper and look at it every morning when you get up.
. . . Forgetting what lies behind and pressing forward to what lies ahead. —Philippians 3:13
Whether you were, or were not, a Believer when you divorced; whether you were, or were not, at fault; whether you were, or were not, baptized . . . makes zero difference!
If you are trusting the shed blood of Jesus Christ to pay for your sin, then you are a child of God, desiring to grow in His Word and Will. But you are incapable of doing anything by your own good works. God has to do it.
You said you want to change yourself, but trust us, you can’t. God has to grow the fruit on you from the inside out. You can’t just tack fruit on yourself!
What you seem to be missing are these facts: You are as clean/cleansed as you will ever be because of what Jesus did 2000 years ago. There is nothing you can do, or not do, to make yourself more, or less, pleasing to God; or more, or less, acceptable to God.
Therefore, the answer to your re-marriage question is that since ALL of your sin was paid for at the cross, when God looks at you He sees a perfectly righteous, 100% cleansed person.
In God’s eyes, you are no different than you were before you were married and divorced. Did He want you to divorce? No. But it’s like any other sin in your life, GONE!
Regarding getting re-married:
Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you. —1 Corinthians 7:27-28
God says that as a divorced person, you should not pursue marriage, “for you will have trouble in this life.” But He adds, if you do, you have not sinned. So if you fall in love with a Believer, it is better to marry than to burn in lust. Just serve and trust God. And if a solid Believer comes into your life who wants to marry you and love you like Christ loved the Church, yes, marry him with God’s blessing! Whether he is short or tall, slim or fat, rich or poor, he’s a keeper! God bless and keep your eyes on Him! Additional resource for this GML: Or you can order this DVD to be mailed to you also by clicking the title above and choosing that option or by calling 208-762-7777. ______________________________ ______________________________
But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. —1 Corinthians 7:9
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Just serve and trust God. And if a solid Believer comes into your life who wants to marry you and love you like Christ loved the Church, yes, marry him with God’s blessing! Whether he is short or tall, slim or fat, rich or poor, he’s a keeper!
God bless and keep your eyes on Him!
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