Jesus, our purest example of humility!
We are all born with pride.
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God —Romans 3:23
It’s part of the sinful nature we inherited from being descendants of Adam.
Nevertheless death reigned from Adam until Moses, even over those who had not sinned in the likeness of the offense of Adam, who is a type of Him who was to come. —Romans 5:14
See also 1 John 2:16
As a study in opposites, Jesus lived His life on earth in total humility. He acquired no wealth, had no home, washed others’ feet, and even on His day of accepting His role as King of kings and Lord of lords, He rode in on a donkey.
The translation of the Hebrew word “just” in this verse is actually “vindicated and victorious.” So in Jesus’ moment of triumph, having lived His life with temptation without sin, He still was showing humility by riding on a donkey rather than the chariot of a King.
Contrast that scene with the way we honor today’s world leaders and corporate tycoons.
. . . humility goes before honor. —Proverbs 18:12
Pride goes before destruction . . . —Proverbs 16:18
My wife and I are experiencing a conflict with our 16-year-old daughter. The conflict has to do with obeying parents when the daughter does not understand why there is a certain rule.
Currently, the specific issue is whether or not she should call boys. When I was raised, I was taught that girls were generally not supposed to call boys. The exception would be if you were calling for a specific purpose, such as finding out about a homework assignment. But a girl was never to call a guy to chit-chat or to invite him out.
My daughter is questioning why she can’t call, and there is nothing in Scripture to address the issue. Is there a scriptural reason to place such limits on when a girl can call a boy? Is it appropriate for a girl to return a boy’s call if the number is on the caller-ID but no message was left?
As the head of the home (Ephesians 5:23), you have the authority and responsibility to lay down rules.
For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. —Ephesians 5:23
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. —Ephesians 6:1
If for no other reason, your daughter should obey you because God said she should, even if she doesn’t understand or agree with your reasoning. Otherwise, she is in rebellion, which God equates with Satan.
For rebellion is as the sin of divination,
And insubordination is as iniquity and idolatry
Because you have rejected the word of the LORD,
He has also rejected you from being king. —1 Samuel 15:23
But the key thing that you need to explain to her is that the guidelines you set for your daughter are for her protection, not to make her life miserable or spoil her fun. Regarding the specific phone question, although you can’t be dogmatic (i.e. Naomi and Boaz as an example), men are generally shown as the pursuer. He is to be the leader of the family and the best place to start is when they first meet.
More importantly, the Bible says women:
- Are a treasure to be sought.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing
And obtains favor from the LORD. —Proverbs 18:22
An excellent wife, who can find?
For her worth is far above jewels. —Proverbs 31:10
- A reward from God.
Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun. —Ecclesiastes 9:9
Therefore, the Bible teaches that it is incumbent upon the man to be the pursuer.
In God’s order, men are to be the leaders of their homes (Ephesians 5:23 – quoted above). This came about because of the fall of mankind in the Garden of Eden. The woman had been deceived (Genesis 3:13), and, for protection of the woman, God ordered man to rule over (watch/protect) his wife.
Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” And the woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” —Genesis 3:13
In contrast, women are to be submissive to their husbands.
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives . . . For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands —1 Peter 3:1, 5
This structure is difficult to maintain as women, due to the sin nature, naturally (sinfully) have a desire to rule over their husbands.
The man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me from the tree, and I ate.” Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” And the woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
The LORD God said to the serpent,
“Because you have done this,
Cursed are you more than all cattle,
And more than every beast of the field;
On your belly you will go,
And dust you will eat
All the days of your life;
And I will put enmity
Between you and the woman,
And between your seed and her seed;
He shall bruise you on the head,
And you shall bruise him on the heel.”
To the woman He said,
“I will greatly multiply
Your pain in childbirth,
In pain you will bring forth children;
Yet your desire will be for your husband,
And he will rule over you.” —Genesis 3:12-16
All of this points to the need for a woman to understand God’s protective structure and, at an early age if possible, to shape their lives accordingly. By taking the role as the pursuer, a woman is practicing just the opposite of what God’s Word teaches.
From a practical side, God made men in a such a way that pursuit comes naturally—with little worry about being rejected. But if the woman is the pursuer, she runs the risk of being rejected. If she hardens herself to the pain of rejection, Biblical authority, and submission, she becomes unresponsive to the truth and “duck soup” for Satan’s lies.
Therefore, we believe it would be totally out of order for any girl to pursue a boy in any way, including asking him out on a date, making unnecessary phone calls, or returning a call from caller-ID when no return call was requested.
Parents need to teach Biblical truth to their children from the earliest age to avoid these types of problems later in life. When children grow up immersed in the Word of God, they learn to trust the Bible, know that God loves them regardless, and that God always wants what’s best for them.
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