A lady should always act like a lady.
You may be the most attractive woman in the city, but if you act or speak without spiritual discretion, your God-given beauty is overshadowed by your crassness. The Hebrew word “taam,” translated “discretion” above, could mean:
- “Physical taste.”
The house of Israel named it manna, and it was like coriander seed, white, and its taste was like wafers with honey. —Exodus 16:31
- Intellectual discretion.
and blessed be your discernment, and blessed be you, who have kept me this day from bloodshed and from avenging myself by my own hand. —1 Samuel 25:33
- Ethical judgment.
Teach me good discernment and knowledge,
For I believe in Your commandments. —Psalm 119:66
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I have a friend who has fallen into sexual immorality outside of wedlock. She has tremendous feelings of guilt and wants to change. However, since she committed this sin, she feels that she is obligated to the man she is having relations with. She is seeking God’s forgiveness (she knows the truth), but her boyfriend is not saved. Is she obligated to stay with him because they had sex? Or is she free to date, and eventually marry, a Christian man?
It is preposterous to claim you must stay in sin once started. One of the functions of the Holy Spirit is conviction of sin.
for our gospel did not come to you in word only, but also in power and in the Holy Spirit and with full conviction; just as you know what kind of men we proved to be among you for your sake. —1 Thessalonians 1:5
Also, claiming to follow Jesus and not turning from obvious sin is inconsistent with salvation. God requires repentance when known sin is found.
Repent and turn away from all your transgressions, so that iniquity may not become a stumbling block to you. —Ezekiel 18:30
I tell you, no, but unless you repent, you will all likewise perish. —Luke 13:3
For this is the will of God . . . abstain from sexual immorality; —1 Thessalonians 4:3
There IS the possibility that someone may be convicted of sin, repent, but then fall back into sin again. In that case we are:
- To forgive as often as they repent.
Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. —Matthew 18:21-22
- Encourage them to get back on a righteous track.
But to NOT flee from known evil (“Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” —James 4:7) makes us think you should have a long talk to determine if she really is a Christian.
Not everyone who says to Me, “Lord, Lord,” will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter. Many will say to Me on that day, “Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?” And then I will declare to them, “I never knew you; DEPART FROM ME, YOU WHO PRACTICE LAWLESSNESS.” —Matthew 7:21-23
Food is for the stomach and the stomach is for food, but God will do away with both of them. Yet the body is not for immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord is for the body. —1 Corinthians 6:13
Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body. —1 Corinthians 18
Also:2 Corinthians 12:21
Because she is in a “weaker sister” state (1 Peter 3:7), she will probably need a great deal of prayer and accountability to break free. So, hang in there.
Certainly she would be free to meet and marry another man. Her sin is no more or less than yours or ours—totally forgiven and nailed to the cross some 2000 years ago.
. . . having canceled out the certificate of debt consisting of decrees against us and which was hostile to us; and He has taken it out of the way, having nailed it to the cross. —Colossians 2:14
There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. —Romans 8:1
As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us. —Psalm 103:12
However, if she continues to remain in the situation unrepentant, knowing it is scripturally out of bounds, then you must consider your situation in light of the following verse:
. . . I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he [or she] is an immoral person . . . not even to eat with such a one. —1 Corinthians 5:11
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