God is totally and ultimately in control of every circumstance in our lives.
The life of Joseph is a fascinating study in the sovereignty of God. Joseph, a man who was faithful and obedient to God, suffered greatly at the hands of others. But he never lost his trust in God, and he never allowed bitterness to supplant his faith and hopes.
As a result, what looked at first glance like a life of tragedy and futility turned out to be one of the deliverances for the people of God. Joseph could forgive his brothers because he knew that God had overruled their efforts with purposes of His own.
The same is true for us. Whatever we’re going through, God promises that if we will trust Him and give Him control of our lives, He will “cause all things to work together for good . . .” (Romans 8:28). That great freedom allows us to live securely above our circumstances.
That great freedom allows us to live securely above our circumstances.
Do you consider French kissing before marriage a sin?
Whatever the foreplay, it’s still foreplay—whether it’s French kissing or holding hands. And the purpose of foreplay is . . .?
There are those that would argue that if you are engaged to marry, it’s ok to kiss good night, in a controlled environment—such as the front door with her dad inside. But if you’re not engaged, you may be kissing someone else’s wife—and that would not be honoring to God.
Statistically it has been reported for years (Josh McDowell, etc.) that those who wait (staying far away from any kind of heavy petting) have the most satisfying marriages sexually.
Remember what God says about fleshly lust:
. . . for it is better to marry than to burn (in lust). —1 Corinthians 7:9b
And if you’re French kissing a girl, it would be hard not to lust.
I am a saved woman for about 15 years now. My first marriage didn’t work out. I stayed as long as possible and prayed that it would not end. But after two years I left for the safety of me and my son. Now I am happily married to my second husband, and we have had a wonderful seven years together. In a recent conversation with one of my neighbors, she brought to my attention that, based on the fact I am remarried, I am continuing to sin on a daily basis. I know God hates divorce, but she claims that I am still bound to my first husband and if I am to continue having relations with my second husband, I am committing adultery. She said that her church encourages people to go back to their first husband or wife even if they are remarried. This doesn’t sound Biblical to me; in fact, it seems to justify another divorce. What does the Bible say I should do?
Let’s first summarize this situation. Since you were a Christian when you first got married, you took an oath before God that you would stay married for “better or worse.” Yet, you opted to ignore the “worse” part and sought a divorce because your husband did not shape up in the two-year period you thought he should.
You should always get out of harm’s way, for safety reasons, but that does not necessitate divorce. So you gave up on doing things God’s way, on His timetable, and made yourself the center of your world.
And now you think your problem is your legalist friend getting in your face telling you that you continue to sin on a daily basis because of the second husband. Both you and your friend are wrong.
First, never join her church or recommend it to anyone. Your neighbor is basically saying her church believes that you should sin again to make up for the last sin. And that Christ’s blood is ineffective until you sin again.
how much more will the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered Himself without blemish to God, cleanse your conscience from dead works to serve the living God? —Hebrews 9:14
Preposterous! As the Bible says,
When will you understand, stupid ones? —Psalm 94:8
Second, your friend/friend’s church is quoting Scripture out of context. Jesus, speaking to the Jews under law, said:
I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. —Matthew 5:32
This group of Jews to whom Jesus was addressing lived under the law. They did not have God’s Holy Spirit living in them. They had no ability to forgive and forget and move on.
But we live in the Church Age, where God’s Holy Spirit indwells Believers, giving them the power to do God’s will. Instructions for those living in the Church Age are in the Epistles. One simple instruction is:
I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. —Philippians 4:13
“All things” means all things! There is nothing you can’t do through Jesus. No problem too large.
So you need to decide if you’re going to serve God at all costs or just where and when you understand what’s going on. A mature Believer trusts God 24/7, against all odds, even to the point of death knowing that the next life is far more important than this life.
If you have totally trusted God as Lord and Savior, then you need to bathe yourself in scriptural truth to properly grow and ground your faith in the Word of God.
As a result, we are no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, by craftiness in deceitful scheming; —Ephesians 4:14
In a nutshell, all your sin—past, present and future—was paid by Jesus’ shed blood and death/burial/resurrection. Therefore, you need to forget the past, move on, and live like you understand your position in Christ—fully forgiven.
. . . forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead —Philippians 3:13______________________________
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