Walk the talk.
As Believers, our relationship with God should continue to mature.
For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus. —Philippians 1:6 (See also 1 Corinthians 14:20)
So it is obvious that God wants us to become in practice what we already are in position—secure forever in His love.
May the LORD answer you in the day of trouble!
May the name of the God of Jacob set you securely on high! —Psalms 20:1 (See also 69:29, 91:14)
The Bible also says we should gain “full assurance of understanding.” When we have that full assurance, knowing our eternity in Christ is forever secure (1 John 5:13), we should have no problem walking in a manner worthy of our Lord. And when we do that, He is pleased! to please him in all respects . . . —Colossians 1:10b
that their hearts may be encouraged, having been knit together in love, and attaining to all the wealth that comes from the full assurance of understanding, resulting in a true knowledge of God’s mystery, that is, Christ Himself —Colossians 2:2
These things I have written to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, so that you may know that you have eternal life. —1 John 5:13
When we have that full assurance, knowing our eternity in Christ is forever secure (1 John 5:13), we should have no problem walking in a manner worthy of our Lord. And when we do that, He is pleased!
to please him in all respects . . . —Colossians 1:10b
I have been reading GML for sometime now and have come to the conclusion that my husband is not the spiritual leader God wants him to be. We both became Christians about 10 years ago. But, outside of two hours at church each Sunday, his life is void of spiritual value. He makes no attempt to teach me or our children (7, 9, 12) anything in the Bible. He avoids praying with me and only prays with the kids at dinner—if we all are eating together. I am left with the responsibility of teaching the kids verses.
I feel silly even complaining as he is kind, a wonderful provider, is great around the house, seems to love me at all times, and is a great dad to the kids. I could count the number of serious fights we’ve had on one hand. Yet, I would give anything to have a spiritual leader with characteristics like those described in Scripture. I considered putting him on the ladies’ prayer chain, but it seems to be more of a gossip line than anything else, so, according to past GMLs, that wouldn’t be honoring him. Do you think it is ok to be proactive and just start asking him Bible questions? Or could you suggest something I could do to spiritually jumpstart my husband?
We have received numerous similar emails. So you’re certainly not alone. Based on the sum total of all the questions we receive, it seems that there are very, very few husbands who cut the spiritual mustard. Christian men seem to have a tough time taking the Biblical reins. But even though your husband is not where you think he should be spiritually, God is still in control and can use this situation positively.
You were correct to desire prayer for your husband and also correct to avoid the gossip chain. Remember, God says to go to your inner room to pray in secret.
But you, when you pray, go into your inner room, close your door and pray to your Father who is in secret, and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you. —Matthew 6:6
So that particular prayer chain isn’t an option. But don’t give up praying. We have heard great reports of women who had prayed for their husbands for decades and God finally answered their prayers.
Asking your husband Bible questions could be good if done properly. There is this verse to consider:
you wives, be submissive to your husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the Word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. —1 Peter 3:1-2
Although this verse is primarily dealing with husbands refusing the gospel message (non-Christian husbands), there is an application here. You must be careful not to violate the spirit of the verse—which is to make all appeals with respect.
You mentioned a number of good/loving qualities that your husband has. Those things are blessings to you from God, so don’t make the mistake of letting Satan blind you to those things as you pray for his spiritual leadership. Let your husband know the things you appreciate about him.
You may also want to consider praying that God would give you the opportunity to join a small-group home Bible study. Of all the things that seem to affect men, small-group fellowship seems to make a lasting impact. Just remember that it’s not the small group that makes a difference, it’s the Holy Spirit. When He moves, your husband will be moved.
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